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How Planned Parenthood of Greater NY Defanged Conservatives and Strengthened Its Mission

In its 105th year, the Planned Parenthood of Greater New York (PPGNY) sharply turned its large ship in a different direction when it publicly disavowed its founder, Margaret Sanger and reckoned with its white supremacist history.

Over the prior 104 years, Conservatives have weaponized Sanger against Planned Parenthood by exposing the holes within white feminism. While liberals (defensively) hailed Sanger as the feminist pioneer of the Reproductive Rights movement who was a woman of her time.

If you are confused about Sanger, I am here to help clarify

Book cover of Killing The Black Body by Dorothy Roberts

For a heavily researched, in depth understanding of Sanger, I urge you to read Killing The Black Body by scholar and professor Dorothy Roberts. It refutes the “woman of her time” argument because as many know, Black and Indigenous women were purposefully not heard, despite their pushback, during Sanger’s time.

It also unpacks how W.E.B. Du Bois was against eugenics, despite how he and other Black people from that time are used by white feminists as a (the?) reason to not “cancel” Sanger.

Roberts also unpacks the maternal colonialism endemic to Sanger’s work. For example, in her 1939 letter to Dr. Clarence J. Gamble (heir to Proctor and Gamble), she said, “We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population, and the minister is the man who can straighten out that idea if it ever occurs to any of their more rebellious members.” When Sanger coined the term “birth control”, it was couched in the language of eugenics, which was defined by race and could never be understood apart from race.

Similarly damning to Sanger’s legacy is how the Germans learned from and modeled their sterilization laws from eugenicists (including Sanger) in the USA. Yes, it was those in the US who provided the framework for the Nazi compulsory sterilization law of 1933 which was eventually implemented during the Nazi Holocaust. Again, read the book.

Before I go on . . .

I want to underscore that I am indubitably grateful for Planned Parenthood and the services it has provided to me. And, as mentioned in my abortion story, during my process of decolonization, I have come to understand the deep chasms that have historically prevented Planned Parenthood from evolving, innovating and leading communities it serves in an equitable way

Therefore, I was curious to learn what happened, internally, at PPGNY to finally turn the proverbial ship towards equitable reproductive freedom

So I reached out to my contacts at PPGNY and sat down with Merle McGee, Chief Equity and Engagement Officer and Fiona Kanagasingam, Chief Equity and Learning Officer to discuss everything from Sanger’s name removal to the expansive and bold future that they envision for the NY affiliate.

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100 Children’s Books For Blossoming Activists

We were gifted 6 copies of the children’s book A is for Activist when I was pregnant with our kid. So when I come across a progressive parent who has not heard of that book, I am admittedly surprised . . . Until I remind myself that I live in a Brooklyn bubble.

From the day our Sun came home from the hospital, we have read to him at minimum 3 books a night. He has more children’s books than toys. And yes, I realize all the cliches and stereotypes about Brooklyn and/or South-Asian-American parents have just reared their obnoxious heads. And, this is our truth.

Books were my salvation, joy and escape during childhood and they still are. Plus, I was recently identified as a bibliobibuli, so I’m just gonna lean in and claim it all with 0 shame.

After a few community requests, I put together a list of 100 progressive children’s books that center Own Voices authors. This list includes James Baldwin’s only children’s book that has just been published for the first time in 40 years! Enjoy!

Caveats, warnings, fine print

  • This list is in no way exhaustive, please add recs in the comments;
  • Having said that, there are some books that I kept out on purpose and am happy to discuss why;
  • Age ranges are subjective and limiting so they are not included. For example, my 3.5 yr old has always enjoyed books that do not comport to his age. . . You all know your own kids, they are limitless, go with your gut;
  • I recommend Indie Bound as a way to find books from your local independent bookstore. My favorites are Greenlight Bookstore and Center for Fiction, both located in Ft. Greene, Brooklyn. Yet Indie Bound is not always on point. There have been many books that have not appeared to be locally available on the Indie Bound site, but then I’ll go to the bookstore and the book is there (just happened last week);
  • Before someone @ me about using Amazon links, I want to be clear about why I did: 1) Some of these radical children’s books are self-published and are only available on Amazon because of this, this and more. 2) I think the descriptions and comments can be useful in choosing books. 3) We are living in a global pandemic and I don’t know where people are located, so I’m trying to be useful and realistic;
  • The list is ordered alphabetically.

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Rashida Richardson discussing civil rights and technology in The Social Dilemma on Netflix
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The Only Black Person In ‘The Social Dilemma’ On Civil Rights And Tech

The only Black person in Netflix’s The Social Dilemma, was interviewed for over 4 hours, but in the documentary for 7 seconds. It felt egregious to me. Not just because of the optics that others have been discussing, but because Rashida Richardson is an effing genius and trailblazer who needs to be heard. 

Cast of Netflix Documentary The Social Dilemma at the 2020 Sundance Film Festival premiere
The 2020 Sundance Film Festival, “The Social Dilemma” Premiere

When the film producers from The Social Dilemma reached out to Rashida, a civil rights lawyer who focuses on technology, she was initially hesitant to participate. Her take was, “I’m not like these other people that you are interviewing. They helped to develop the systems that we now see as a problem and now they conveniently realize there is a problem after they have profited from it”. But the film producers still wanted (7 seconds of) her after she divulged her concerns. 

Netflix The Social Dilemma documentary poster art with a young woman on the phone walking.

So, I recently went over to her Brooklyn Brownstone, which her grandparents purchased in the 1940s, to discuss really interesting shit that was left out of the documentary. Of course, Rashida made me a delicious meal, because she is a phenomenal cook, and we talked and laughed for a few hours. Full disclosure: We met during law school and since that time we have become friends, dance partners, foodie buddies and more. 

Fazeela Siddiqui and Rashida Richardson discussing the Netflix documentary, The Social Dilemma
Rashida and I at her home

So sit back and get ready for us to discuss why tech is the next big civil rights issue of our time, why Rashida doesn’t use social media, how the NYPD and FBI are preventing Brooklyn rappers from coming back to the level of Biggie and Bad Boy, having dinner at Angela Davis’s home and the real talk she gives to young Black women who reach out to her for career advice.

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grapefruit that emulates a lubricated vagina or WAP
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A Urogynecologist On The Health Necessity of WAP

A few weeks ago, Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion came out with the music video WAP (Wet Ass Pussy). Some people think its too vulgar and as expected, Republicans are all uptight about it. I think Cardi B has brought to light something that is REALLY important but taboo to discuss. Your pussy NEEDS to be wet. So I thank Cardi B for disrupting the culturally prude, misogynistic and patriarchal existence that we are subjected to.

I mean if I asked my religious Muslim mother, “Is it important to have a wet ass pussy?”, she would first say, “What is this?” I would clarify and say, lubricated vagina, and she would say, “Of course it is necessary”. Growing up, it was haram for my sisters and I to date or watch Beverly Hills 90210 (but we figured out how). Yet talking about kegels, cramps and/or the consistency of our period blood with my mom and dad was an accepted norm.

So normal that when I got my period, at age 11, my mother (a pediatric pathologist at the time) took me down to the basement to look at vaginas under her microscope. Ok, so they were (nasty) vaginas with STIs and she was trying to make a point. Without saying a word her eyes threatened, “THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU HAVE SEX (BEFORE MARRIAGE)”. We never discussed morals or anything, she just showed me that sh*&. I still laugh when I realize that my mother provided me with the most effective sex ed. lesson.

While thinking about this, I reached out to my older sister, Naz, aka Dr. Nazema Siddiqui, Urogynecologist and Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Duke Medical School to discuss the mechanics and importance of WAP.

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Illustration of Black women's hands holding a card for reproductive justice
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Why Reproductive Justice Does Not Align With ProChoice Politics

“Reproductive rights” and “reproductive justice” are phrases used interchangeably, while in fact they are dueling movements amidst a growing power struggle.

The Reproductive Rights Movement is led by mid-upper class white feminists with a narrow agenda, that solely focuses on ending pregnancy through “pro-choice” activism. It has refused to incorporate anti-racism into its framework.

The Reproductive Justice movement is led by radical feminists of color and QTPOC who affirmatively incorporate an antiracist framework. RJ represents those who legally lost the “right to choose” four years after Roe v. Wade and addresses reproductive violences that remain ignored or unimportant by the former movement.

The new Black President of Planned Parenthood, Alexis McGill, has indicated that her vision is to lead the organization into a reproductive justice framework for the first time. This is great news considering the organization’s sordid history! It signals a real ideological shift towards justice.

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A desi woman saying Wake Up, Didi! It's time for the revolution to her auntie in a bright Andy Warhol like comic strip format.
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6 BOOKS FOR NON-BLACK POC AUNTIES AND UNCLES

On June 1, my mom texted me that she needed to join the protests (sparked by George Floyd’s murder) . . . And it got me to thinking . . . She is alert, engaged and now is the time to send in the books. Specifically, the anti-racist ones.

When it comes to police brutality and anti-Black racism, my immigrant Desi parents are moved, during this moment, more than I have seen in the past. And, as a first generation AAPI (Asian Americans & Pacific-Islanders) kid, I understand my unique role in guiding them through civics, government, and social justice in the US.

My sisters and I are like human YELP recommendations for my parents . . . for everything. Considering the tremendous influence we have on them and the portal that we are currently in, I put together 6 anti-racist book recommendations that I am going to send to my parents along with the commentary as to why I think they should read them. Feel free to pass them on to yours!

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A Brooklyn Mom’s Guide to Clog Boots

Last week, the NYT published The New Mom Uniform of Park Slope. After reading, and then losing a few brain cells, I knew that I had to hop onto the clogwagon*. Not out of defensiveness for getting clumped into the Park Slope crowd (I am a Brooklyn mom who lives in Bed-Stuy). But instead, to assist my fellow Brooklyn moms in choosing which clog boot would work best for you! There is a whole world out there beyond No. 6.

I have been eyeing these clog boots on the streets for the past decade. They catch my eye every time I see them. And I don’t care what that NYT writer wrote, I think their aesthetic is completely stylish and funky. Plus they work with everything.

I literally spent the last 2 years researching these boots before purchasing. Why 2 years? Because these are the most expensive shoes that I have ever purchased and I needed to save money make sure that I was making an informed decision. The price of these boots is equivalent to one or more weekly daycare payments. As a Brooklyn mom raising a kid on two non-profit salaries, this had to be thought out and well worth it.

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Why Angela Davis’ Support Of Palestine Threatens White Supremacists

You may have heard that the Birmingham Civil Rights Institute just rescinded the Fred Shuttlesworth Human Rights Award from Angela Davis. Queen Davis was shocked and issued this response. The question that lingers – Why is Angela Davis’ support for Palestinian human rights so threatening that it would force the BCRI to rescind this honor?

The answer, in my opinion, lies in Angela Davis’ ability to make the important connections between the Military and Prison Industrial Complexes in the US with similar oppressive forces in places like Israel. Specifically, she has cogently illustrated, in her recent book, how the Black Lives Matter movement and Palestinian human rights are intrinsically linked. THIS is the nucleus of the perceived threat.

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Read This If You Hold Your Pee (To Prevent Irreversible Damage)

You are at the movie theatre, watching an amazing film (think Get Out), there are 30 minutes left and you have to pee from your oversized drink. Do you 1) Get up and go to the bathroom? or 2) Hold your pee? I’m often faced with this quandary and I used to choose the second option, until a year ago . . .

I was with my family at a restaurant, holding my pee, everyone wanted me to go to the bathroom but I was acting stubborn and then Naz glared at me with the winning-I’llconvinceher-look and said,  “Don’t hold in your pee because you can lose your nerves, never regrow them and cause irreversible damage . . .” Yup, that convinced me to go… And I’ve been confused about kegels and strengthening my pelvic floor vs. ruining it ever since. Especially since my pelvic floor PT taught me to hold my kegels to prevent postpartum incontinence.

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Loving your FUPA (aka Mommy Tummy, Diastasis Recti)

After giving birth, for the first time, I, like many other moms, got a FUPA. And I don’t do SPANX (anymore). A while back, I admittedly got seduced by their advertising, so I went ahead and ordered some. They made me bloated, contorted my stomach rolls, constantly hiked up my thighs and my body looked strange. I thought, “Oh, I just ordered the wrong type”. So I ordered 3 more versions of essentially the same thing until I put my proverbial foot down. I’m no longer suckin’ in sh*&. Instead, I run around my apartment singing “I don’t think you’re ready for this jelly…”

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